tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post2338443470890577212..comments2023-06-02T06:17:20.519-07:00Comments on In Through The Out Door: BalanceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-20038000894536973752008-06-12T09:38:00.000-07:002008-06-12T09:38:00.000-07:00Let me tell you, I bite my tongue a LOT!!! The ot...Let me tell you, I bite my tongue a LOT!!! <BR/><BR/>The other day my sister and I were discussing TC and I said, "When he graduates..." blah, blah, blah. And her reply was, "Well, he won't graduate til' he is 21, right?" <BR/><BR/>HUH?? I wonder where she got her info. I ALMOST went off on her. <BR/><BR/>My Mom is "negative Nelly" She always says how TC is never going to be independent, etc.......and I have told her countless times that he will be just fine.<BR/><BR/><BR/>It does get exhausting. And nobody understands unless they have gone through it. :)kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-75275140553383701172008-06-10T20:08:00.000-07:002008-06-10T20:08:00.000-07:00Carrie,As I sit here reading all of this my head i...Carrie,<BR/>As I sit here reading all of this my head is spinning. Life is hard and that SUCKS! I know I have told you this so many times before but you are amazing. You continue to amaze me every time I read your blog. As I sit here with tears running down my face I want to say that I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I truly believe in fate- Sam was meant to be your son. He is truly the luckiest child to have you and Scott for parents. I don't know if anyone else could be the person you are being for Sam.<BR/><BR/>I have known you a long time. I have seen all of the hats come on and off. We have been through a lot over the years and I know that you could always be counted on. Not many people have that quality. I have seen you grow from a little girl to an amazingly beautiful woman. You are the true definition of strength. As women we are expected to handle so much and just keep going. It is hard- people can be horrible whether they mean it or not. People just don't think. I like to think that people are good and their intentions are good, but not everyone is like that. As you confront these people just remember you are a strong woman, mother, friend. Don't let anyone break your spirit- it is a beautiful one. Everyone in your life (including me :0) is truly blessed to have you as a part of their life. I believe that you learn from everyone that you meet. Look what you are doing for these other families. You are an inspiration.<BR/><BR/>As for how to handle these situations- I wish I had some good advice. People who know you should understand. They should know when to back off. If they don't- tell them. You do not have to be the nice person all of the time- you are only human. Everyone snaps. The people who love you and know you will understand that. If you snap, you snap. You need an outlet- your family and friends will always come back.<BR/><BR/>Just remember when things get tough that you are STRENGTH. YOU are MY role model. I am learning so much from you on how to be a great mother. You have touched many lives, especially mine.<BR/><BR/>I love you,<BR/>DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-15199241473546867712008-06-09T15:09:00.000-07:002008-06-09T15:09:00.000-07:00I wish I had advice but I don't. I am EXACTLY lik...I wish I had advice but I don't. I am EXACTLY like you, must be the italian. I give off the pissed vibe very loudly. I don't know how i do it, but people pick on it very quickly, otherwise i bottle it up and cry in anger later...on put it on my blog. People have their own issues and soem are too self centered to understand. Take a good friend of mine who had a baby one month ago bitching her daughter hasn't smiled yet! She found THE most hurtful thing to say...bitch! Anyway, you're human we make mistakes and if anybody should be quickly forgiven it's us! I wish it would just STOP hurting! :(Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14026680043397412448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-40705434473030174932008-06-07T20:28:00.000-07:002008-06-07T20:28:00.000-07:00Hey Carrie - I always say "Dont Sweat the Small St...Hey Carrie - I always say "Dont Sweat the Small Stuff" - <BR/>AND in this big world of Craziess <BR/>Mom fights - "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" - <BR/>I know that you know - that <BR/>I know - !<BR/><BR/>Ya know - >?? <BR/><BR/>You Do U !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-46873713803993345872008-06-07T15:42:00.000-07:002008-06-07T15:42:00.000-07:00The only way i know is to have the decision that n...The only way i know is to have the decision that nothing but nothing will push me over the edge...simply because there is no edge for me before my son will do this or that...before i get to do this or that. or before I'll reach this or that gall or point and so on and so forth...<BR/>Once you get the understanding that when you waist so much energy to think what other people feel or to behave according to someone else's expectations....you lose the energy to take care of the real important things in life.<BR/>Remember - nobody judge you. Not even your own Mother. Just don't forget that the rest of the world is allowed to act Human from time to time as well (to get insult and sensitive). But that does not have any thing to do with the way you behave. This is their choice to decide how to feel and what they feel.<BR/>In your everyday hard struggle with Sam...you need to keep your energy for him & Scott. The rest of the world can wait for you to be friendly, nice; kind, sympathetic ect', but all that can not be provided just according to ones wishes for immediate satisfaction. <BR/><BR/>I can say only on behalf of myself ( though I'm sure most of your family & friends will agree):<BR/>"We are all happy that we can be there for you to get it out on –( because of the distances – only while reading/following your Blog - instead of you getting it out on Sam or Scott."<BR/>Love U<BR/>IritAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-9937935990884070612008-06-06T18:27:00.000-07:002008-06-06T18:27:00.000-07:00If there was a true answer to this question life w...If there was a true answer to this question life would be awfully dull! I have learned in my years of dealing with difficult people to ignore alot, in my mind I feel bad for them. I just tell myself that they are jealous or ignorant, etc! If you honestly believe that people dont mean to inflict pain it is easier to handle. HOWEVER (you didnt think it was that easy!) if you let it bottle up too much then you need to vent, husbands empty bathrooms even perfect strangers will listen to the unloading of such pent up hostility! <BR/><BR/>Dont beat yourself up too much, we all have different levels of craziness and it all works out in the end! Breakfast or lunch with a good friend (or family member) works wonders too!<BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/>AliseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-84052845869899126972008-06-06T07:22:00.000-07:002008-06-06T07:22:00.000-07:00Carrie, You have every right to go off every once ...Carrie, <BR/><BR/>You have every right to go off every once in a while. Everyone does it - believe it or not - even people without special needs kids. We are all human! It is our nature to have a reaching point, a limit and to be exhausted. Don't be so hard on yourself, this is your child you are talking about and you deserve to be upset!<BR/><BR/>A few weeks ago we had a DR. appt with John. The nurse was doing one of those things that just annoy me, like when they keep insisting I do something a certain way. I just blurted out, "Shut the F*&^ Up!". This is so not my nature and I was appaulded with myself after I said it. I apologized to her a few days later and as sweet and loving as she is, she just said, "It's ok, I will never understand what happens to you as a mom of John but I am glad I could be there for you to get it out on - instead of you getting it out on Kevin (hubby)". I was floored that she said that, she was more concerned with my family dynamic then her own feelings that day! <BR/><BR/>You are going to have plenty more days and people have now been warned 3X's is the limit! If they persist after that then the bitch hat goes on... :-) <BR/><BR/>Your an awesome mama! Sam has made some really great strides and has a long way to go. You hace EVERY right to be emotional, angry, happy, sad, bitchy - Carrie Style! <BR/><BR/>XOXOXO<BR/>Barb<BR/><BR/>P.S. Johnny seen the vidoe of Sam sitting up and he started signing "baby". I think that was so cute!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18081374710704660428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1225071180996619530.post-70376071453902905482008-06-06T03:16:00.000-07:002008-06-06T03:16:00.000-07:00Gotta tell you Carrie...I think you are incredible...Gotta tell you Carrie...I think you are incredible, and oh so human, actually superhuman at times!! It hurts....most people don't realize when they take that one step too far. Don't beat yourself up--you are normal!!! They'll get over it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com